Instinctive Influencers

Episode 26 – Influence is…Presence
Your presence can define your influence and your influence supports your presence. This episode starts off a long series called “Influence is…” and helps you, the Influencer, as you look at the finer details to become a better you. So, sit back and listen to what Brian and Ed have to say about presence but be ready this one is a lengthy conversation.
The article used during this episode can be found at the following website:
https://www.business.com/articles/how-to-establish-presence-and-influence-people/?fbclid=IwAR2vlOJVxfVxTpYdQI1zsq917SflVZURykB2dvc0z6gSdJSqChig3rlZobw
 
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Episode 25 – The First Q&A Show
Below you will find all the questions posted for our very first Q&A Show. Don’t worry, you will get a chance to ask more questions for our next one which will be Episode 50.
 
Tammy Haley - Do you think that understanding Freud's Personality Factors can/will help you to influence others? (Perhaps this might be a full episode, as it encompasses so much).
 
Tammy Haley - Have either of you read "How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie? If so, what did you think of it?
 
Tammy Haley - To further it, if you haven't, perhaps the podcast could do a 'book club' type episode, where everyone interested can read the book, send in their views/interpretations on a thread, and y'all talk about just this book. I don't know. Seems my brain is flowing with ideas tonight
 
Tammy Haley - Brian - in the Suicide episode, you talked about the Netflix show "Thirteen Reasons Why". The show was actually based on the Novel of the same name by Jay Asher. I encourage you to read the novel, when you have the time, as it was very well written and even more traumatic and dramatic than the show. (Not really a question, just that I have read the book and I would love to hear what you think of it).
 
Tammy Haley -
Ice cream or sherbet? Fro-yo or gelato? Pizza or tacos? Cats or dogs? Sun or snow? Favorite season? Beach or mountains? Boxers or briefs?
 
Ric Williams - What was your most difficult leadership challenge, and when did you realize it was your most difficult leadership challenge
 
Tammy Haley - What are some lessons learned with professional boundaries for teams you lead?
 
Heather Linville - We talk to ourselves more than anyone...how big of an impact do you think our internal conversations have on our lives, and what way can we keep that internal conversation the most positive influence it can be? Do you have your own intentional, motivational talk with yourself or is it second nature?
 
Cathy Sanchez - What is the best way to handle a situation where you know your boss did something ethically wrong?
 
 
 
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Episode 24 – Building a Lifelong Marriage of Influence
Building a relationship can be a challenge, but having some help along the way is always nice. Here are just a few tips to help you along your journey with your significant other.
 
10 signs the honeymoon phase is over:
You stop trying to be your best you in appearance and action for the other person…sweatpants on and makeup or styling off.
You start being more honest about your dislikes…especially restaurants!
You stop acting like everything is wonderful all the time.
Fighting begins…or at least small disagreements.
You joke about bodily functions.
You are aware of your partner’s negative mannerisms…or what you perceive as negative.
You become reactive to conflict or you have an itch to be combative about something you feel strongly about.
You have power struggles or start to keep score.
You start talking negatively about the partner with someone outside the relationship…could be something as small is talking about what bothers you.
You get in a fight and then create separation.
 
 
From this point, the actual relationship building truly begins but only as much as you want it.
 
14 Areas of a Lifelong Marriage of Influence:
Communication –
Never involve others who could be biased –
Don’t bash insecurities…support them –
Give needed Space and know how to request it –
Do Chores together –
Make important decisions together –
Have Fun Together, especially laugh –
Leave the past behind you –
Apologize –
Respect each other when not together –
Make sacrifices for each other and don’t keep count –
Remember you can only control your 100% of the marriage, not theirs.
Share your Faith/Spirituality/Religion
Say “I Love You” Everyday…and do it with meaning.
 
 
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Episode 23 – 5 Movies of Influence
Movies are such a great source for entertainment and help us look at things differently. This is exactly why we are doing this episode about movies. We talk about many movies but list out our top 5 influential ones. Sit back listen and let us know what you think.
 
Movies Mentioned:
Mile 22 - https://amzn.to/2E3mtXU
Mad Max Fury Road - https://amzn.to/2VsOR0l
Warrior - https://amzn.to/2VBKRe8
The Dark Knight Rises - https://amzn.to/2He0EGS
Venom - https://amzn.to/2Vxv9QS
Lone Survivor - https://amzn.to/2HeyV9l
Shooter - https://amzn.to/2Hef0XP
Italian Job - https://amzn.to/2VQ4MFt
The Hot Chick - https://amzn.to/2LQDpY7
The Animal - https://amzn.to/2HduiMx
Batman the Movie (1966) - https://amzn.to/2LDdq6i
The Godfather - https://amzn.to/2W274kC
Office Space - https://amzn.to/2PY5dYQ
Smokey and the Bandit - https://amzn.to/2LBvYnc
Star Wars: The Empire Strikes Back - https://amzn.to/2HefrRX
Fight Club - https://amzn.to/30mqUXo
White Christmas - https://amzn.to/30eCSSQ
Schindler’s List - https://amzn.to/2LBxA0h
National Lampoon’s Christmas Vacation - https://amzn.to/2LCITFE
New Jack City - https://amzn.to/2LDWfBr
Silence of the Lambs - https://amzn.to/2W1spuw
Pirates of the Caribbean - https://amzn.to/2E01ULS
Hercules - https://amzn.to/2VtgaYl
 
Brian’s Top 5 (Remember Rocky (https://amzn.to/2HeH39B)is actually #1
5. Back to the Future - https://amzn.to/2HezEY7
4. We Were Soldiers… - https://amzn.to/305iSlo
3. The Program - https://amzn.to/2PYl3T5
2. Forrest Gump - https://amzn.to/2DZ0K35
1. 300 - https://amzn.to/305iUd0
 
Ed’s Top 5
5. The Five Heartbeats - https://amzn.to/2VBMw3m
4. Indiana Jones and the Raiders of the Lost Ark - https://amzn.to/2VBMA36
3. Monster’s Inc. - https://amzn.to/2Q1JoYf
2. Blackhawk Down - https://amzn.to/2E6zzUm
1. Patton - https://amzn.to/2E1SeAA
 
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Episode 22 – Brian & Ed Do Instinctive Response
Episode 22 dives into the questions asked to the guest we interview, also known as Instinctive Response. Really, it’s just a fun friendly show to help the audience get to know Brian and Ed even more. Make sure you let us know what you think by leaving a review on the Facebook page. Just Click on the link below!
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Episode 21 – Influence of Our Reflections
Episode 21 is primarily about self and learning how to reflect upon our lives for a better understanding of being a better self. Brian and Ed dive deep into the content written by Tracy Kennedy, Lifehack’s Personal Development Expert, titled “How Self-Reflection Gives You a Happier and More Successful Life” (Kennedy, 2018). The insights of Brian and Ed combined with the information provided by Tracy incubates a recipe for success at the individual level, which can be used in aiding others as an Influencer.
 
Tracy’s article can be found at https://www.lifehack.org/696285/how-self-reflection-gives-you-a-happier-and-more-successful-life
 
Tracy Provided some questions to ‘ponder’ when you reflect on YOU:
What are my core values? What are the beliefs, guiding principles or ideas that are deeply important to me? What are my priorities?
What are my unique gifts, skills, strengths or talents?
What are the weaknesses or blind spots I need to watch out for?
Who do I want to be?
What energy do I want to bring to everything I do?
What is the impact or difference I want to make? How do I want to serve, contribute or add value?
What are my passions? What do I love? What gets me engaged, motivated and excited?
Are there any beliefs that I have that are limiting me?
What do I want for my life? (after all, if you don’t know what you want, how do you expect to get there?)
When am I at my best?
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Episode 20 – Communicating Influence
Episode 20 is an in-depth look at communication and how we can better enable influence through it. Without good communication we will struggle to be effective in our ability to influence others but why settle good communication when you can make it great communication? Brian and Ed take the topic of communication and weave through the intricate details which help us be more involved. They often reference the use of Emotional Intelligence when developing communication so be sure to check out Episode 17.
 
There are 4 Areas of Communication discussed:
Effective Communication
Listening Skills
Questioning Skills
Impact of Poor Questioning and Listening
 
2 Books Referenced in the show:
The Coaching Habit - https://amzn.to/2VZEk8Z
Red Teaming - https://amzn.to/2GzZfKq
 
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Episode 19 – Music as a tool of Influence
Today’s show is hosted by Ed Haley and his lovely wife, Tammy. They present a different look at music and how we can and are influenced. Additionally, they help listeners understand how being a leader or influencer is like music. So, sit back relax and listen in on a great conversation.
 
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Episode 18 – Understanding the G.I.V.E. Mindset
What is G.I.V.E.?
            G.I.V.E. is the four primary principles designed to help hone the skills, competencies, and capabilities as influencers. The G.I.V.E mentality is an influencer centric approach aligned to existing strategies to reach the desired target audience. Each element must be influencer unique, relevant and compelling if it is to act as a key driver of engagement and retention for successful outcomes.
G is for Growth
            Process, Development, and Gradual Increase
I is for Inspiration
            Animating, Quickening, and Exalting Influence
V is for Vision
            Vivid, Imaginative Conception, and Mental Picture
E is for Experience
            Personally Encounter, Practical Wisdom, and Learning
 
 
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Episode 17 – Influencing with Developed Emotional Intelligence
What is Emotional Intelligence?
The capacity to be aware of, control, and express one's emotions, and to handle interpersonal relationships judiciously and empathetically.
 
5 Emotional Intelligence Competencies with Solutions to Success
Self-Awareness/Reflection – Understanding yourself by knowing your emotional Strengths and Weaknesses. This is also knowing how others perceive us as being know how your mood directs thoughts and decisions.
 Solution to Success: Journal and if you are unsure what to write then use prompts. Also, you can slow down to grab your composure (Take just a few minutes to think). Be introspective in nature and seek honest feedback from those you trust. Become an internal change agent driven to improve weaknesses and strengths. Be honest with yourself and check your ego.
 
Self-Regulation/Discipline – Taking control of your emotions when faced with challenge or stress. Think about decisions and outcomes. Be reserved in language toward others. Holding to your personal values. Do not become a slave to your emotions.
 Solution to Success: Build your own values-based code of conduct. Take ownership no matter the outcome but be sure to praise others when it is good. When faced with giving an emotional response use 15-30 seconds of deep breathing to gain control. Develop 3 different courses of action to allow yourself to think in different directions.
 
Motivation/Purpose – It is important to know why you are doing what you are doing and have a positive mindset of success. Knowing your why in anything you do has to be your center of focus. If you are unsure of your why then your motivation will drain quickly.
 Solution to Success: Find your why, which can be done using the lessons of Simon Sinek. Once you know your why, measure your motivation level (low, medium, high). Set achievable goals to elevate confidence and a positive environment. We will be faced with times of despair or problems so a bridge to overcome is using resilience (Hunt the Good stuff is great for this). We have to remind ourselves; Attitude is everything and to think long term.
 
Empathy – Put yourself in other people’s shoes to help understand their emotional state. This will help you understand the wants, needs, and correlated viewpoints of each. Empathy will allow you to react in a worthy manner according to other people's emotions. A highly useful reaction for you is being calm to help the others be calm.
 Solution to Success: Put yourself in other's shoes by going through a thought process of you being the one going through the emotion due to a circumstance. Good or bad visualize yourself going through the same instance. Train yourself to be observant of body language, but also be aware that your body language could be what they are mimicking. Once you notice another’s feelings then respond to them and attempt to create a positive situation if need be.
 
Social Skills – Having the ability to communicate with others no matter the circumstance or situation. Being a team player who creates an atmosphere or environment of positive movement forward to success. Social Skills open the doors of success for others through positive affirmation and motivation. The foundation of this is relationship building.
 Solutions to Success: Learn about conflict resolution and how to direct the conflict when faced with it. Improve communication verbally and nonverbally by engaging in meaningful conversation and by paying attention to your body language. You should strive to have the tough conversations as much as the easy ones. Praise of others is key to building relationships.
 
 
Books talked about in this episode:
Emotional Intelligence – https://amzn.to/2JPg9Z9
Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff…and it’s all small stuff – https://amzn.to/2FHikIZ
The First Time Manager – https://amzn.to/2WyTSAw
Start with Why – https://amzn.to/2OEZt5G
Find Your Why – https://amzn.to/2FMANFe
Extreme Ownership – https://amzn.to/2FCiuBy
The Way of The Seal – https://amzn.to/2K6SPXl
The Three Meter Zone – https://amzn.to/2Wx554t
5 Languages of Appreciation in the Workplace – https://amzn.to/2Wx58gF
Leading With Honor - https://amzn.to/2Up10BW
 
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